Kai, If the time comes and you are forced to divorce your h, I want to assure you, you will be okay. The weight of the MLC will be lifted and the game of boundaries can then change. You will then have even more control over your life. How can I say that? Well, I'm divorced from a MLCer. I have been divorced for over 7 years and have been traveling this road for over 10 years and have studied and learned quite a bit about the MLC monster.
There are a number of successful posters all over the forums who are divorced and have gone on to be successes in all areas of their lives. Myturnnow, Lissie and others post here in the MLC forum as well as the Surviving Divorce forum. Divorce is not the end of the world...it's just a piece of paper. Who knows what the future holds for any of us. Please do not be afraid of what the future holds. The only thing you need to fear is fear itself.
Grieving takes time and each person moves along the path at their pace. However, we do not want to see anyone getting stuck. Why not sit down and make a list of things that you would like to accomplish that you've not been able to do for a long time? Check them off as you complete them. This is a good first step in getting over the "hump".
If you have any questions, please feel free to ask. I do not mind sharing what I have done to travel on down the road.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
