Long Journey .......... advice please

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All through our M H seemed to choose work over the kids and I. He worked every weekend and holidays were about me taking the kids somewhere and H joining us for 2-3 days. He didn't really have to work but he 'had to' because he needed to stay in control. There were very few outings except to dinner as a family.

I hope this is taken in the manner it's meant as I have caught up on your thread in the last few days.

I can relate to your H because that is exactly what I did during the M (and my W did to the same extent). Since splitting I have had nights out, concerts etc. just like your H. And just like you and your H, me and W only ever really went out for family dinners and little else.

However, my reason for doing this is because prior to the separation I decided to stop work at 6pm or when my W came home from her work (I work from home). I noticed that a problem for us was the amount of time we both worked. I regulated my time. W didn't (although it was more difficult for her).

Since splitting I have realised that I should work to live and not live to work. My priorities have shifted and I hope stay that way, however I'm wondering if maybe your H is the same?

The difference between me and your H is I didn't leave, I have no OW. I know the thread has moved on slightly but as I said, I thought I'd throw it out there, feel free to shoot it down.