If you have a chance, could you jump over and give me your opinion.
Not exactly sure what part you want my opinion on, but I'll give it a shot. First of all.....you need separate bank accounts b/c as long as you cover your W overdrafts, she will continue to make them. Just as in raising a child, what has she learned if you rescue her every time? She needs to deal with her own consequences.
If it is still over moving back into the home or not.....like I said before, if you move back, do it as a strong, confident man who has made that decision....and not a man who appears weak and can't make it. The problem is the amount of time that you have been S from her, and if you just waltz in some day, all hell will break lose. She thinks of that as "her" house and you the intruder.
I know there was several posts here and on my thread that you were discussing this issue. My final say would be whatever makes you appear to be stronger and in control of his life as a man. Frankly, I don't know what to tell you about the children. It's just a mess all the way around and I'm sure the more changes that are made in your D's surroundings, the harder it is for everyone. I am no professional about children with her problem on a severe level, but at this point......I would do what is best for your children.....whatever you think that is.
I do maintain that your W should be opperating out of her own checking account and not expect to be covered if she overdraws.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
