i can really push her so far away she'll never look back again?
if the answer is yes, i've got no choice.
You have choices and yes you can push her so far away.
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went to shrink today, for the first time, said we got to work on me
Excellent choice! Yes, this has to be about you right now.
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it's tough to focus on myself, forcing myself to do things, but keeping moving i guess is suppose to keep the anxiety down.
It takes time, be patient with yourself as well. Keep improving you, fight that urge to reason with her. You can't right now.
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keeping it fun for kids, workin' on myself.
Perfect! This is what it's all about. You work on you and enjoy your children and the life you have. Your only option is to cut your wife loose and becoming a better person. You don't have to say a single word to her either.....she will notice in time.
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should i just fall out of love?
No, you detach from her craziness and you realize you can't do a single thing to help her UNTIL she helps herself. Take what you have learned here and step way back from her. Make some changes, be more quiet around her. Not in a rude way just be confident and quiet.
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my gut's telling me not too,that she's just runnin' and sees me as stress, if i just continue to stay out of the way, might be a turn around?
Listen to your gut. Yes she does see you as stress and she will keep on seeing you that way as long as you keep trying to pursue her.
Keep having fun with those kiddos and keep becoming a better AYK.
