Ok. Just the facts (but with out all the illicit details).
Thanks Lodo - that is an awesome book. For the longest time, I thought the rooster humped the egg just like salmon. And why do chickens have breasts but no nipples? All kidding aside, I will be seeking that one out.
So I picked up my son at his mom's tonight after dealing with terrible traffic because of snow that hit right at rush hour. I am taking him with the cub scouts to the horse track tomorrow for a flag ceremony and tour/watching of races (no betting for the scouts). On the slow drive home, I asked who's SUV was parked at his mom's place and he said it was one of Ed's son's. I asked him if that was Ed's youngest son and he responded by saying the he (S9) was now Ed's youngest son. I then asked him if he calls Ed "dad" and he said that his mom has told him to call Ed that now and S9 thinks it is weird to do.
Does anyone think I should bring this to the attention of my XW? Should I phrase it using reverse logic..."Do you think it appropriate that if and when I get remarried that it is ok that the kids call my new wife 'mom' or 'mommy'?"
It just seem bizarre to me as my parents never insisted I call my step parents by anything but their first name. Maybe it is a Thai culture thing. I do remember that the children of friends of my XW would call me uncle Kerry - even her friend who is almost my age calls me uncle Kerry still.
I am not going to let it bother me and just not bring it up with XW. My kids will just call him Eddie when they are with me. They know the whole situation and that I am their real dad.
Don't be surprised if OM believes your kids are actually HIS kids because your wife is now actually HIS wife! That's might explain what you son is saying. All this strikes me as not just bizarre but actually very SICK! That's why I sent you that song "Shame and Scandal in the Family" ... Woe is me ... your daddy ain't your daddy but your mamma don't know.
<<Does anyone think I should bring this to the attention of my XW? Should I phrase it using reverse logic>>
you phrase it whichever way you like....I think you should bring it up if you are not comfortable. I guarantee you that I would and there would be no reverse anything about it!
My son was at my office this morning reading a "Ripley's Believe It Or Not" book I got him for Christmas. There was a picture of a guy with bull testicles in his mouth (for a relay). So my son asked me what testicles are and I told him. I did leave out the part about my knowing a guy in Alaska who has his wife carry his testicles in her purse.
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
You mean snowballs, right? Hi Kerry, Happy New Year. I'll try to pray for sunshine this time. p.s. Ignore the Eddie thing. You're better than that. Besides, doesn't he have one foot in the grave?
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Not nearly as vast as that pirate/zombie killer who lives in Alaska.
I got the book Lodo mentioned from the library. It is awesome! I also picked up another one called "It's Not the Stork" that is also very enlightening.
Now the kids will finally understand why there is only one feral rabbit that hangs around our house and why there are so many darn chickens on Kauai.
Ummm, Kerry??? Can I have a word with you? Over here, in the corner, where I can yell and scream and we can pretend that people aren't actually staring and wondering if they should call the cops.
Truth, I can sort of understand where you're coming from on the whole calling the new husband Dad, I mean, seriously what can you do? You can get into a war with the XW on whom the kids are going to obey on the issue, you can ask nicely or not so nicely that she refrain from that, and you can take them to court. None of which are terribly good choices, but I'm with John on this one, Thai culture or not, it's wrong wrong wrong and there is no way on God's beautiful green Earth that I wouldn't mention it.
So, God Bless You and have fun explaining why the rabbit had to die.