skied on Sunday with my D16. We had a nice day and a really good talk about H. I gave her a pretty grown-up update on H and OW living together and why I haven't filed for D. She asked me how I can be so calm abt it, and I told her it's based on prayer and trying to find empathy for H. The confusion, guilt, possible bi-polar or depression issues, etc. have helped me to feel some empathy for H as if he were ill, and she seemed to understand this POV.
She sent H, her stepdad, a text Sunday night - the first in about 6 mths. Told him he was missed at Xmas and she missed skiing with him. He wrote back that he hoped she had a good Xmas and asked abt skiing. I think this is a victory b/c it softens her heart towards H. She has every reason to be upset, but if she can extend the olive branch and maybe they can rebuild some sort of R, then it's a win/win.
I talked with H today via text abt a neighbor in our cul-de-sac that died over the weekend. He fell into the water while ice fishing and froze to death. Such an awful way to go... H wanted the neighbor's address to send a card and made a little conversation via text. H seems a bit less distant.
There has been an unusual amount of death around me this year. 2 uncles, my dad, my son's best friend and now my neighbor 3 doors down. What is the lesson here..? Life is short - of course, but what else? All four left families behind that loved them, and supported them thru all the challenges. Not sure, but something to think about.
