Re: the unauthorized withdrawal, she said two different things about it when she returned:
1. "I did that just to piss you off!" (because I've been transferring money)
2. "Oh that was a mistake. I was joking with the teller and she thought I wanted her to really take the money out. It'll get put back tomorrow."
I wonder if my leverage wanes if I don't file quickly. I mean, the longer I have her back in the house (isn't that insane to have to say about your wife?!) the more it seems to look like she wants to be here. She was gone for about a month, heard from her maybe twice a week.
Talk to your attorney tomorrow. If you decide to pursue it as a criminal matter, you probably will want to act quickly. I bet the teller will hang her out to dry if questioned under oath.
As far as her wanting to be in the house...either she's given up dbag and wants to work on your marriage, or she hasn't. If she hasn't, then she will come and go as she pleases, stay out late, etc. You can document those things. It may even be worthwhile to get a P.I. to get some photos--your attorney can advise you about this. If she has, she should be contrite and be asking you what it will take to make it work for you. Do not have sex with her! Not only does that expose you to whatever diseases dbag may have, but you don't want to imply that she is welcome back into the marriage.
I agree that it's crazy to be so distrustful of your own wife. You have no choice at this point. She has to prove her true intentions. As far as seeking out Puppy and Coach, the face icon in the upper left corner of any of there posts shows when they are online. Find there most recent post and reply to it.
