Hope and heartache

[ClingingToHope]

Spent the night watching football with my friend who just separated from his W. Safe issues. Seemingly happy until three years ago until they stopped trying to have a second child. Fertility treatments didn't work. She wanted to adopt. He didn't.

Big mistake.

What they are doing is splitting weeks at their house. It's a very nice house. The one out lives at the parents house.

He was telling me they are still doing several things as a family and each time they have a good experience he pushes for more. I gave him the LBS rules and he's trying to back off.

He's saying some good things. He wasn't happy either and doesn't want to go back to the way it was so a lot has to change.

His W has resources. Her parents would be able to finance a D so he's trying to prepare for getting papers after New Year's.

I told him to expect the worst and hope for the best. I told him how it looked like a D filing was imminent in October and I haven't heard anything along those lines since early November.

My case. Two days and not a word from W. I have no idea if she has ideas for New Year's. As of now, I expect to take the girls Dec. 30 and then she has them Dec. 31 and Jan. 1. It's her weekened so that means -- unless something is worked out I won't see the girls for four straight days. The longest stretch since the summer.

I don't know really what's next. W forgot to leave enough money in our joint account for our second mortgage payment. So she's facing another $35 bounced check fee.

I thought about 1) calling and 2) transferring money in to cover. I decided against both. She'll have to either fix it herself or call for help.