No, I was not saying you should request to be her friend! I meant that W would only know if you were checking up on her on FB if you requested to be her friend.
Ahh. I see what you mean.
I never checked up on her (another gold star for me). Other seem to although it has been less and less now. I've actually just spent an entire day and I mentioned W once (as D's mum when she went to the shop if W was working there - that was it). Definitely a brownie point for me.
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My other reaction to her changing it to private is because she is feeling the need to keep her relationship with OM as private...ashamed perhaps? Lots of people are learning the truth? But we all know the problem with mind reading!
It could be. It could be a thousand reasons. If everything is so settled, why make it private it all unless it's to hide it from me (and why would she care what I think anyway or whether I knew or not!).
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Oh, what a smart little girl you have!!
That she is. Sometimes too smart though
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How's it going between you and D's mom?
Very well. A little too well. But that is a story for another time!
Feeling pretty low tonight.
Watched a program earlier that me and W used to watch and never finished the series of. Got to thinking that I may not see her again. Hear from her again. How she can erase 7 years of our life together so quickly. How she can change so quickly. How much of a coward she is. All of that stuff came out tonight. I'm not bad, just a little low. Will be better tomorrow.
Feel NC was the wrong thing for the relationship but the right thing for me ... NC for me is more important but I wonder what it would have been like had I continued the contact with D and I.
What to do now? Just sit and wait for the A to end while GALing?
well I think you have read my thread and thats what mostlikley would be happening if you still made contact.
NC is very very nice for self healing but I feel that with her contacting me again it just put me back to the early parts of my stich... missing her and thinking about her every 10 min or so it will get better as time goes on. I think you are doing the right thing though. and its most likely a long long road. however it turns out... You tried and thats more than what most people can say
it will get better as time goes on. I think you are doing the right thing though. and its most likely a long long road. however it turns out... You tried and thats more than what most people can say
