Thank you, Day. I've heard the "temper tantrum" analogy before, but the way you describe it really hits home! The "it's all about me" fit of "I want what I want and I want it now!!!" thing. I still don't understand what he really wants most of the time, but it is clear I can't rationalize with someone so possessed and out of control. And childish!
Yes, like I said, last night when I confronted him, he admitted to his share of mistakes (although we have yet to get into them). So, although I do not hear him offering up specifics yet, I believe we are getting there. \ In the past few weeks I have confronted him on some of his verbal abuse stuff, and I have actually gotten an apology and I see he is lessening it quite a bit. So, no tearful confessions yet, but cracks in the armor. Inklings at self reflection.
We started MC three weeks ago, when H also began IC. Hopefully this is all getting through to him.
We are in California, but he comes from NJ and says that growing up admitting to going to C would be completely unacceptable. so for him to even be going means he must be getting vulnerable.
