Newbie with almost WAW - Need Advice

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How would you climb a mountain?

I certainly wouldn't let go of the rope Sorry, read a lot of threads about dropping the rope today so couldn't resist!

I guess instead of looking at the entire mountain and seeing an incredible obstacle that cant be overcome (and defeating myself), I have to focus on each step and just worry about making progress in very small increments. Your post yesterday was right, I need a plan. I have a lot of ideas for self improvement but I need a plan for busting the A, for getting my self respect back, for getting my W's respect back and moving this ship in some direction either to D or R.

I will think some more and post some ideas later tonight and hopefully you can help me regroup a bit. I DBd really badly in December!

I did notice something really trivial and insignificant last night in an interaction with my W. It made me think that I need to shake up her feeling of control over this sitch