THANKS SOOO much for the support..! I absolutely do feel deep inside that this was the best decision regardless of how my sitch turns out.. I move back in tonight. I was planning on moving back after the weekend BUT when she seemed nervous /anxious about when I planning on moving I just decided at that moment that it was TONIGHT.. (I gave W the impression that I have been moving my things back in all day today).
I have have not seen her this nervous/upset/scared/anxious like this in a long time.. My good friend tells me she no longer has a cake to have and eat it.!!
I plan on being cool, calm, continuing my 180's/GAL and getting busy with my kids again. I expect she will be pissed, angry, and mad as hell (I threw a wrench in her plans and caused her a crisis)...I will try my damnedest not to engage.. I expect the mother of all hissy-fits...
Some of the best response advice I received here was: "I'm sorry that you feel that way" "I can understand why you may feel that way" "I decided....."
The impression that she gave off was "WTF just happend here?" Yes, She was shocked.
Called the Atty, to figure out what my options are if she decides to take the kids from the home with her if she moves out...he wont be in till 1/4... hopefully her Atty is on vacation as well..
My mind is spinning, I know in my heart I did good today, just don't want this to blow up in my face... I've always been cautious and think things several steps ahead. Still scared but glad I did it....
Without a formal custody agreement in place, I'm assuming she wouldn't just run off with the kids, it would be dumb on her part, it would look like kidnapping, it is their home, moving them somewhere else so that you don't have access to them would be a blemish on her part.
Moving back in is the best thing you can do.
As for the crazy psycho hissy fit bat$hit crazy that you think you're expecting, multiply it by a factor of 10 and then at least you will be expecting it.
My advice when that happens, don't react emotionally to her emotional reaction.
She will be angry.
Just smile and handle it like a cool, calm, confident man.
Remember women test men, she'll be testing your reaction.
You are bullet proof (that's a figure of speech, I expect you to duck if she shoots at you with a gun LOL!), nothing she can scream, yell or say to you can hurt you especially if you know she's reacting because she feels insecure about the situation, she feels like she's losing control, she knows you're gaining some control, the dynamic in this power struggle is changing.
Just be cool.
And be strong for your kids and remind her to keep her craziness in check if the kids are present, they don't need to see this and you being at home where your kids live is the best thing for them - trust me: I went through this and it was the best move for me, you will gain alot of personal strength and confidence from this move back home and you will have alot of forward & upward momentum from now on.
