Wife called this afternoon. I listened to her talk about how she wants to sell the house and seperate so we can start our R over. I validated. I did not agree or disagree. I simply validated. I could tell she felt listened to. Is she legitimately trying to step back from the edge or is she just running away? She said she felt like I have been trying to push her to file, so she would be the bad guy. I validated.
I told her that I was not ready to make any decisions. She has had more time to think about things and I am not making any decisions at the moment.
I told her that I am most interested in healing from the A. Her call was intersting timing, I had just been reading Coach and S2's posts on PatPat's thread about the A. Coach and S2 each said that A talk is a form of pressure and was counter productive. I have asserted my boundries very clearly. I told her I can't think of any better way to lead my family than to open up to trusting again. I could tell this had a profound impact upon her. I sensed this gained me some respect. Therefore, if she would like to talk about her A, I would listen but I would not bring up the subject again outside of counseling, if we get to that point. Of course, I will be keeping a weathered eye out!
On a lighter note, I would say just about anything to have sex. (Kidding)(Sort of)
