h is in mlc, now threatening divorce...

[Wholeagain]

((( Lost )))

Keep listening to your H and kids.

Keep busy especially if you feel low and it will pass. You'll get through.

[lost1234]

I will...

my d 8 y/o asked him when he was coming home...she wanted to watch a movie...


how do i listen to him? i mean really...i never know what his real intentions are.

i was told by someone that his anger is guilt...sister of love that it is a good thing...

doesnt feel too good when it is usually directed at me!

definately keeping busy!!!

[lost1234]

hey everyone need opinions please...moving has been an issue since b4 h left.

we pay a chunk in rent and have problems that do not get tended to by the landlord. we believe because they would be a big expense...ll has ALWAYS been good just these things arent being taken care of

anyways, we need to stay in the same area for sake of the girls not changing schools.

reading the paper this morning i found an apt. in our area...not many houses or apt ever come up for rent...very small town.

anyways im speaking with her and it turns out it is a 2 bdrm apt on the first floor and an efficency apt on 2nd floor...

could be perfect however i havent gone to look at it and to be honest im afraid to bring it up...

h ALWAYS complains of his long drive...we could literally be in the same building but still in 2 different places...

also no worrying about apt living with kids if it were your spouse that is above or below you...


thoughts?

[Wholeagain]

I have no idea. Did your H move out in August? Wouldn't it be pursuing to ask him to live in essentially the same building with you?

Hope someone else will chime in.

[lost1234]

yes he left 8/9/09


i think it would be considered pursuing Whole...

he is still a wonderful father tho...for financial reasons and for the girls is my main concern.

i dont know what he would think. like i said we are in a very small town so for something like that to be open is not only amazing...its kinda ironic...

[soleil]

Lost, is there another apt in the same town that you could look at? Living that close seems like it'd be killer.

[lost1234]

soleil,

to be honest, not at this time...there is a 4 bdrm house but it is not divided in any way and waaaay out of our price range...even if we were still living together...

[soleil]

Hmmm...have you tried Craigslist in your area?

[lost1234]

yes, as well as simply driving around...no luck

[Gnosis]

Ok, here's my take on this...

From what I recall... H left. He's gone. So...

You move for YOU and the kids. If he wants to move in there upstairs... that's his problem. Your only responsibility is to tell him why you want to move to that apartment. i.e. the repairs and current living conditions.

You don't mention the other apartment to him. Tell him you want to move there, ask him to come with you and check the place out. If he has half a brain and is so inclined he will see the other apartment on his own.

Does this answer you question?