I guess it's easy for me to read about another woman's sorry H and wonder why on earth she would want to go back to him. If you love the man and don't want a D.....that's your business. However, I do not understand wanting to reunite with a man you are afraid of, and who uses fear tatics.

Anyway, you asked about Dropping the Rope and I wrote my version of it on one of the LBH's threads. I will copy & paste it here. Just exchange the woman & man around and you'll get the idea of the LBS pulling on the rope that is tied to the WAS.

I can't help you with the legal stuff, but I think you need legal assistance. I don't know how you could possibly trust your H. I think he has serious issues and that you need to stay away from him, but like I said, it's your business.

Take care of yourself and stay safe.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!