Kev, I go back to my earlier posts that you didn't understand. Again, this is a subtle control issue you have. You think that you can change the outcome of this if you just 'do' something, and your W notices, and she'll decide to come back.
There has definitely been that.
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However, It takes 2 to make a MR. One alone can not make a MR work.
You are correct on this.
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You can acknowledge your failINGS, especially when it comes to your MR.
You make the changes to you, and for you, and fix what was broken on your side of the MR. If the MR still does not work out, it is not your failing alone, it is the combined failing of the 2 of you.
It is a combined failing of the 2 of us. I have just hated to think there is nothing I could do to save it. But I also recognize from whatevery one has told me by trying to save it my own way, and continue to take gambles, it probably further slipped away.
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It's a subtle but marked shift in your perception and understanding that helps to break these chains that keep you in limbo and unable to move to make progress on yourself.
It's also empowering for yourself to get to that point.
Yes it is and I have seen that in many on here.
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I know you are slowly moving in the right direction, so don't think we don't notice, and why we continue to post to you. Keep working!
I am. Thanks.
Kevin
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Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
