The silver lining in your sitch is that she wants to "stay together as a family." I think that gives you n advantage.

Originally Posted By: narwhal

My understanding of DB process says that I should be practicing detachment now, along with GALing. That I should be giving my WAW space to breathe & think.


Yes, yes, and yes.

Originally Posted By: narwhal
the $64K question: is there some way I can emonstrate that I am capable of better emotional connection, without making her feel pressured about the relationship?

I would welcome a woman's perspective on this!


Yes, there is. You are going to convey this by being a happy person and getting on with your life while she is out there in her fog. You have already set the boundary that you will not share her with another, right? id you tell her you're willing to do anything to work on the marriage? If you haven't, let her know and don't bring it up again. Now it's time to let her marinate on that and do your own thing. GAL yourself to death. Smile, be happy, treat yourself to an ice cream, exercise. (Ha, I am finally getting a hang of this DB thing)!