I find myself feeling like if I do, then I am acknowledging that I failed.
Kev, I go back to my earlier posts that you didn't understand. Again, this is a subtle control issue you have. You think that you can change the outcome of this if you just 'do' something, and your W notices, and she'll decide to come back.
However, It takes 2 to make a MR. One alone can not make a MR work.
You can acknowledge your failINGS, especially when it comes to your MR.
You make the changes to you, and for you, and fix what was broken on your side of the MR. If the MR still does not work out, it is not your failing alone, it is the combined failing of the 2 of you.
It's a subtle but marked shift in your perception and understanding that helps to break these chains that keep you in limbo and unable to move to make progress on yourself.
It's also empowering for yourself to get to that point.
I know you are slowly moving in the right direction, so don't think we don't notice, and why we continue to post to you. Keep working!
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
