It is great that your H is still trying to stay involved with you and the girls even though he has moved out. Since feeling like you aren't "listening" to him is one of his issues, maybe the dim/dark thing isn't the best idea right now so you don't push him further away.
Your girls don't seem overly anxious to spend time with their dad (didn't want to see a movie with him, etc.) Does he take offense and outwardly get upset?
