My WAW caught at an early stage (I hope)

[narwhal]

Background: my WAW wants to stay together as a family for the sake of our son (4), but she doesn't believe that emotional connection with me is possible and won't commit to MC.

My understanding of DB process says that I should be practicing detachment now, along with GALing. That I should be giving my WAW space to breathe & think.

But one of my key failings as a husband has been that I don't show her enough love, appreciation, make her feel special, show that she is important to me. Beginning to do that seems like a really important 180, which if she could see and accept it, might help her begin to envision a positive future with me.

But, she won't have sex with me, rejects any physical touch beyond a good-night kiss, and asked me to please NOT give her flowers or anything romantic like that. We do have pleasant conversations about household issues and other day-to-day matters.

So, the $64K question: is there some way I can demonstrate that I am capable of better emotional connection, without making her feel pressured about the relationship?

I would welcome a woman's perspective on this!