Encouraging your son to have a relationship with your wife will be really important to him--and to you, over the long run. I just read the book "Second Chances". It is so sad what these kids have to go through when a parent ignores them or doesn't care about their feelings and emotions. I hope that your W sees that her son is HER responsibility and she will have a huge impact on his future maturity and emotional stability.
Its funny to see how long folks will put up with bad behavior. For me, it was 7 months. Others seem to draw the line at a year. But I guess you could go on and on and on. I actually think that any marriage can be saved if you both want to save it. But if one person doesn't, the other can't do all the work. Its just not possible. My neighbor just told me that HER husband had an affair years ago. They worked through it and are a really beautiful couple. But it takes two grown ups to do it...sounds like your W is still an adolescent.
