Originally Posted By: K4D IMO the one that chooses to leave instead of staying and trying to work on the M is the one that failed. The LBS if at least tried to make it work, did not fail.
I don't believe this is true in every sitch. Please read my sitch and tell me what you think. I don't think I "failed." I think I hit my threshold for patience and being naive that I can do everything in my power to make him not say those things to me.
I say this and at the same time feel like I failed at my own M.
None the less, soleil. I am not making a judgement call here. I was just trying to show sadgirl that she did not fail in her M as she gave it every shot possible. She doesn't need to feel like a failure when she has no reason to feel like a failure. She gave it a good shot and things may yet still turn around for her and her sitch. More time will tell.
I have no idea what your sitch is nor will I try to make a judgement call on it. I can certainly read up on it and see if I can offer anything helpful to you. But I won't offer you a judgement on it. Everyone has their threshold.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
