Besides, do I recall you being less than satisfied with IC; saying, in effect, that IC "doesn't get it", or was that MC?
That was the MC, I found out later that he did get it, but we didn't stick with it long enough to delve into those issues. I'll call the office this afternoon and see if anything has opened up. I really haven't talked to anyone about what's going on except here over the last month, it is time now.
This IC does know me- I started seeing her back in March of last year and she was a tremendous help in pre-separation, along with my friends here. But now it's time for "phase 2", right?
Well if you were comfy with her, then it won't be a problem. However, if you want to try IC with someone new, go for it! Whichever you prefer is what will be best for you.
Counselling is so great when you have a good rapport with the person.
Right now I feel myself being pulled all sorts of directions. *I have what's familiar but it's not healthy (emotionally or physically) and that's the easy route *I need to start something new and healthier and I don't really know how to get started in that direction *just isolating myself is an option but not a healthy one either.
We all need help from time to time and we we ask for it, it's a sign of strength.
My C has a big sign in his waiting room. It is the FIRST thing you see when you walk in. The sign reads...
IF YOU HAVE WALKED IN FOR HELP YOU ARE EXIHIBITING STRENGTH. OUR STAFF IS PROUD TO HAVE YOU HERE!
I see many positives in your bullet points. You understand what is not healthy and you know you must step out of your comfort zone to become healthy. Knowing that self isolation is not good is HUGE! Knowing what you need to do is an amazing first step so pat yourself on the back for that and keep plugging away!
Well, I didn't expect this- I called to check on scheduling additional and earlier appointments with the IC. The whole office is closed, I got the voice mail. They must be closed for the week. There's a 8 or so counselors in the group, and they're all on vacation- "Call 911 if this is an emergency..." So I'm still waiting.
That sucks. I love the dial 911 if this is an emergency. My IC has the same message. Often wondered if anyone actually calls 911 when they can't get into see their IC.
Anyone else you can talk with? A pastor?
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"My husband likes it when I act like a slut..." No, I think I'll keep this to myself until I see the IC...
Someone else mentioned on her thread that her H noticed some guy checking her out and it bothered him. Mine would have said instead "he's checking you out. what do you think- you want him? go say hi..." He's not jealous, he's happy to share. I'm sure he must have gotten good marks for that in kindergarten...
