Too Close to Sitch (sorry.. long first post)

[DiamondGirl]

So have you thought about moving forward?

I'm working on it.. I'm trying to get in the frame of mind that he may stick with the "easy way out" plan and start fresh with the OW. And trying to think of things I can involve my kids in to take their mind off of things.. And I've been trying to get our house in order so that it's more organized etc (keeping busy really)


Have you exposed?

I'm not sure what you mean by that...

Does your S13 know?

My son is non-verbal (minimal actually) and knows that "daddy doesn't live here anymore". He's shown some signs of anger and frustration and resistance to seeing WAH but it is difficult to know exactly what his thoughts/feelings are...

My D3 asked me if she could ask Santa to get daddy to come home... She also said that she thought that he left because she was bad and made him mad all the time... *sigh*



Based on both your family history what family members can support you?
Do you have any friends who can support you?

My mom and I have gotten closer since all this went down. But other than her, the only family I had was the one I "adopted" when we got married - his. I've gotten in touch with some friends again that knew me way back when, and they've been the ones that have listened to me cry on their shoulders...

I think I missed it but is your H seeing an IC ?????

The OW is a psych professor and told him that "Psychologists are just best friends you pay to listen to you". (Of course her words are gold to him) So no... he's pretty much against all therapists...


You keep mentioning co-dep. Do you think you can detach?


I'm trying to... but it is so hard after leaning on him emotionally for so long. I feel like a rubber legged doll ready to collapse at any time.. I keep trying to find the mental trick to tap into so that I can do it consistently. It's hard to match up the man I married to the alien now in my life. He is so the opposite of him right now and I'm trying to not take anything he says personally. I'm a "fixer" and it's hard to take that I can't/shouldn't try to "help" him with this. He needs to stand on his own right now and I need to learn to also.