Like most guys, it was only after I got a 2x4 across the head that I woke up. I now fear it is "too little, too late". I worry that once the separation agreement is finalized we really have no reason to talk. No kids, no financial ties, separate friends.
Accept that this is a possibility.
Acknowledge that there are some things you may not be able to fix with a "My bad", even a really sincere "My bad".
In no way am I saying that you should give up, or that you don't deserve to be forgiven, or anything like that. It's awesome that you are seeing what you didn't see before and working hard to fix your end of things; so many people never get to that point even when they are whacked upside the head with the 2x4.
Even so, in scrambling to "fix it" before she slips irretrievably away from you, beware of devaluing or minimizing her pain -- which didn't happen overnight -- in a desperate search for an 11th hour solution that meets *your* needs.
She may come back, and she may not. Let go. Do what you now perceive that you need to do to become a better man and husband either way.
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
