K4D It's a Wonderful Life

[K4D]

See, these are things I am asking you to think about to possibly understand the root of your fear.

If you and your W were married why was only HER name on the lease of a house you shared? It doesn't matter if her parents own the house or not... or it shouldn't. Even if she lived there alone prior to marrying you why didn't you ask for a new lease when you moved in that had BOTH of your names on it?

W moved back to Texas ahead of me with my girls while I waited for my job to end. She wanted to get them into school on time. She had to show residence to get them in so her and her step FIL did a quick lease with her name on it. I don't know why she didn't include my name on it. I wasn't there to sign it, so maybe that had something to do with it. I never really gave it much thought with my name being on it or even thought to ask about it as D was never a consideration so I thought.

Why couldn't you afford the house on your own? Because you passed on a job and your W took it.

Obviously. No need to rehash this mistake as it has been the enabler to all of W's decisions since.

Both things happened while you were married. Your W has been running the show and you let her. You let her be the sole person on the lease in a house you both live, pay and maintain. You let her take the better paying job. She sounds like the man in the R and you the W. That is why she is just fine on her own. Even when she was married to you she was still the leader and not much has changed.

Yes, CG, I admit that my W wore the pants in the family for far to long.

Even when she was married to you she was still the leader and not much has changed.

I understand your opinion here and where you are drawing it from and it is hard to disagree. But I am living my own life and leading my own life.

IMO that is why she is just fine on her own and you are not.

I am fine. I am not where I want to be yet, but I am trying to change my career path to be better. With that more options open up for a house, car, things to do with and for my kids, retirement, etc.

Kevin