This is all good stuff and maybe I need to re-think things.
A couple of weeks ago she picked up the kids on a Friday and asked if I wanted to go. I said no becuase I had plans (which was untrue). I think she would perfer that I still go becuase it is nice for her...she gets the best of both worlds, and I am not willing to give her that. However, I have agreed to go out to dinner with them (her and the kids) over the last couple of months becuase I thought I was in a better place than I really am. The OM factor was out of mind. The dinners together always bring a certain level of comfort.
I know for new years eve she is taking out the kids to dinner and I am sure I could go if I wanted to. I would probably have to invite myself since she knows how I feel about things but since it is a special day I am thinking about it. What do you guys think?
In any case, moving on for me is keeping her away as much as possible to minimize the pain and to let go. I want to take the high road and "hate the sin, but love the sinner" so for now I am going to stick with my new approach and really minimize contact, but try to be consistant and her friend as best as possible
Clingingtohope...I did take your advice and told the W we need to change the way things are between her and my parents for the sake of the kids. No response yet.
