What do you do in counseling? If your counselor is not helping you learn how to find solutions then you need to find a new counselor. One can spend a lifetime in C'ing rehashing and talking about feelings and still be stuck because no goals are being created to find solutions to improve your life.
Right now she is helping me define my goals. We are getting back on that January 5th.
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And yes, you did have other options regarding the family home but you were afraid to exercise them as you feared it would make things worse. You let fear stand in the way of possibly staying in the family home. The result? You live in an apartment.
Ok CG. You will have to explain to me what my other options were then W's parents own the house and realistically, I could not have made the rent on my own without really struggling financially.
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Did you and your W have a clause in the lease to the house you were renting that states if she wants you out then you must leave? If you wanted to fight to keep your family in tact then why not take the gamble and present your case to a judge. If you were denied at least it was the LAW dictating your housing status and not your W. If you would do *anything* to keep your family in tact then it seems to me you would have tried every possible long shot to remain in the family home that neither you or your W own. As far as I know a landlord cannot evict one party due to a change in marital status. But you didn't. Because you feared it would make things worse.
My W was the only one with her name on the lease. Other than my driver's license, I had no claim to the rental house. And her parents had already checked into it and found that they could have me evicted within 30 days. The L tells me the judge usually rules in favor of who evers parents own the house. I didn't see having much of a chance of staying in it much less the ability to make the rent each month on my own without really struggling financially. And yes to add to all of that, the situation would have only grown far worse and nasty.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
