Jak, Matilda, Aud, Doc, and DB Friends, The holidays went well. My W went to two of my family's events--a dinner at my brother's home and a dinner at a restaurant. People were on good behavior. Whenever my W said something that was overly personal or critical, they let it pass. She was on good behavior, and seemed to have a nice time.
Her sister and BIL are separated. My W's theory is that her sister is being self-centered and rigid (won't date her H, won't allow visitors, is critical, is never happy) My W has been stating often lately that she doesn't want to be like people like her sister or her ex-dance friend.
My sister asked if she could stop by the house to visit my sheep dog. This served as a spark for my W to clean. She was up all night cleaning bathrooms, the kitchen, doing laundry. When I got up I pitched in. The place is looking great. My W didn't complain, and seemed to appreciate the catalyst for cleaning.
I'm beginning to not recognize my W. She said the other day that she is feeling content. I asked what's contributing to it, and she didn't know. She said that having the trip to look forward to helps. I've never heard the word content to describe herself before. She has lost seven pounds (135 lb.) which she attributes to cutting down on sugar, and not eating so much at restaurants.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
