I don't now if I can sit there and tell my kids this is what is best for them.
I don't think you have to! I'm sure there's a way to tell them it's not what you want, that you're sad, too, and all of this stuff needs to be discussed, so everyone understands what's happening in the family.
How old are your kids again?
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.