Sounds like you went thru hell - how you kept sane during that is a miracle.
I guess what gets to me is how after 25/30 yrs, 3 kids, bills, family death/illnesses, good times, hard times, wonderful times, but surviving and having love and utmost trust, that suddenly its gone? You love a person and trust them with everything in your life, and then its "I don't love you anymore". How do you put aside all that time, all that "living", and put it in a trash bag and throw it away?
It's true I cannot comprehend what she is feeling because I feel the opposite, but its just mindboggling to think about it. And the fact that she doesn't want to talk about it or work on it. She feels bad and doesn't want to hurt me, but she just doesn't have that feeling anymore.
I do feel betrayed though - like she stole all those years from me - whether she is in an EA or not. That may be selfish of me to think that way - who in their right mind would marry someone for 25 yrs with no feeling - and I lived it with her every day - so I know what love, trust, understanding, and passion there was. I don't think the greatest actress in the world can fake happiness for 25 yrs - so she definitely lost something within her in the last couple of years, which is the time she is claiming she has started to feel the love slip away.
Anyway - I'm rambling. Come back on later when I regain my sanity.... !
Me: 48 W: 47 M: 25 years T: 30 years S24, D21, D11 Bomb dropped: "Not in love with you" 10/09 Separated Feb 2010
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