Yikes! Need help, please.

[K4D]

Do I go to family counseling to help the kids cope?

Yes. They will need your support and need to know that you are there for them through this time.

I'm half tempted to ask him to go to couples counseling, but that would be BAD.

I would give this a little longer, but it may not be a bad idea if things progress in a positive way back to the R.

I really REALLY think I need to tell him I don't have OM. I feel weird having him think I replaced him already.

This is a tough one. On one hand, it is really drawing his interest back to you as is evident by the niceness and things he is trying to do for you. You are mysterious all of a sudden and it is getting his attention.

I don't know that I would give the info over just yet. Maybe wait and see how things progress. If at some point love looks like it is starting to return and things are heading into a healthy R, it may not be a bad idea to just let him know you have been trying to live your own life based on decisions he was handing you. I need to think more on this one. I would also listen to others advice as well on this one.

Kevin