To snoop, or not to snoop - what do you think?

[narwhal]

My W said that she felt that she felt she would be tempted to have an affair, since she's not getting her emotional needs met in our M. I snooped around on her computer, found some incriminating evidence (email in response to a personals ad), and confronted her with it. That led to a good discussion, which I think has helped our (still very tenuous) situation.

But now I keep checking her computer - recent e-mails, Web sites visited. Her cell phone, too. Nothing suspicious is showing up. But I feel awful snooping around like this. I would much rather be able to trust her. Plus, she could surely make a new anonymous e-mail account and use it from a computer at school if she wanted to hide further bad actions.

So am I just making myself feel like a rotten sneak, without doing any good?