So, basically what it all boils down to is as long as you know a "tangible reward" is at stake (money, marriage) then you have no problem setting boundaries BUT the idea of setting boundaries to become a man is not something you deem as necessary as there is not "tangible reward" in that?
Wow.
Without the mindset of being a man that commands respect and will tolerate nothing else you will never have the tangible stuff. That should scare you silly and I have no clue why it doesn't.
I defend myself quite well at work with valid points. I gave up defending myself and my stance with W because it just made things worse. I obviously didn't deliver my boundaries correctly with W. But at work, I have no problems in that area.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
