If you know it should be unacceptable to you then why isn't it?
I assume you mean condoms when you say "protective covers"? And you want to OFFER her sex? No. You tell her that is she wants to be warmed up you need get something out of it too.. then wink and walk away.
Work on boundaries as a man before you work on the flirty stuff. BASICS. Setting boundaries shows her you will no longer tolerate being treated without respect. After you have established and enforced those boundaries then be flirty, fun, strong, mysterious and let her wonder what she is missing out on due to her domineering and crappy behavior. And honestly, once you do that with your W I bet your girls will stop pitching fits as they will also get the message that bad behavior will not be accepted as a means to get their way.
