Wife wants best of both worlds

[ClingingToHope]

Some say DBing really is moving on. Detach, work on yourself, let go of the old relationship.

I have the same problems. I keep thinking the ultimate goal of DBing is to win W back.

The whole Christmas thing is incredibly hard. My story was exactly opposite of yours. I expected to see W almost not at all on Christmas. I got them on Christmas Eve and she got them for Christmas and was going to bring them by my apartment that night.

She ended up inviting me to come over while they opened presents. Then she asked me to her mom's house for Christmas dinner.

We were together seven hours, the most we've been since we separated.

The next day, I felt like a drug addict on withdrawal and I've had an extremely rough few days since.

We are about at the same place. I've been out 7 1/2 months. The next big thing for me is February when I finally have enough saved for a retainer ($2,500). At that point, I have decisions to make.

Right now, I'm trying to just focus on each day and improve myself physically, financially, emotionally and spiritually.

Focus on today, today, today. Something good might happen.