And, the only Christmas victory you should be focused on is you were able to take the first steps to improve the R with the people that are your children's grandparents.
Lastly, why are you so wiling to take multiple gambles on your W but you refuse to take ANY for YOU? It is baffling to me as you can't control your W but you can control you therefore anything you do to set boundaries would not be a gamble for YOU as YOU can control HOW you set and enforce them.
