Tom, I had the same thoughts as you. I ended up being the "hero" and moving out. It was a major mistake. Now I am stuck in limboland. My W doesn't want to work on the M, doesn't really want to save the money to get a D, can act as if we are not M and do whatever she wants because her life hasn't changed all that much.
I'm stuck now with the unenviable position of staying in limboland indefinitely or filing for D to get some resolution.
Make her do the work, while you work on yourself.
Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11 http://tinyurl.com/yk4e2tz http://tiny.cc/thread2 http://tinyurl.com/ydtphqu http://tinyurl.com/thread4 http://tinyurl.com/3sm78k6 http://tinyurl.com/thread6
