Cutter, sorry, what do you mean by explain myself? Do you mean what"rock the boat" would entail?

I don't know yet. One example is packing up his stuff, which doesn't sound like Plan A behavior. I don't want to mix Plan A with pulling back/NC because that doesn't sound like a strategy...it just sounds like being confusing. Then how would I monitor results? I'm open to suggestions!!!

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004