hi sandi and friends, sorry but i took a few days to do a lot of nothing.New years eve i saw my brother and friends, then got myself a pizza and chocolate babka and watched the food network. My wife went to south america for two weeks to help her sick aunt and cousin with health matters and domestic chores. I think there 's more to it than just that but proving it is another thing. She did call me twice in the last 4 days and at the end of our convos did say "i love you". maybe i'm hanging on to crumbs, but it feels good to hear it. I did NOT call her on New years eve. She Did call me the next day to wish me happy new year.I told her i was Out with some friends and left it at that. I made no mention of missing her or being interested in her activities. Today is the first time in 6 days that i actually called her but she was out so i left a message in my poor spanish with the aunt. She returns in a week and i've no idea what her mood/demeanor will be. I think i need to have a plan in place when she returns. Perhaps several possible scenarios could occur be considered. She could possibly return with open arms missing me. another is possibly announcing leaving. I don't know, but i think i Do understand that i should be prepared and active, not Re active. comments and advice is much appreciated!!
did NOT call her on New years eve. She Did call me the next day to wish me happy new year.I told her i was Out with some friends and left it at that. I made no mention of missing her or being interested in her activities.
Great job!! If you will continue on this path and be able to detach without acting like a jerk in the process.....I think you'll see her drawing in closer to see why you aren't acting all clingy & needy. Women want a man who is hard to get and who doesn't fall all over her. So, don't be too available to her. As one person said, you almost have to act like the WAH in order to get her eyes open.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
ok, i'll continue to follow thru with the advice. She called today from south america to tell me how things are going. we made small talk for a while and then the call got disconnected; i did not call her back. that was 11 am today. she returns in a week and i don't know what to expect. it seems that whenever she returns from some "HIATUS" she seems to have "missed" me, but then we fall back into our old ways? I need to be prepared in what to do when she returns. She'll probably be expecting me to be mushy and lovey dovey. I think the message here is to be unpredictable and somewhat aloof. YES? and to what extent?
yeah...i sound like a crybaby; i guess that what i am presently. but i am trying. went out last nite with a friend. ended up fun. wife called from south america this am. she seemed a bit surprised that i was out. Trying to GAL!
