So, last night, I was cleaning up the house a bit after Christmas, and found something that was worth noting..
My d8's aunt gave her a 'wishing' teddy bear as one of her presents, and as I am cleaning up last night, I found my d8 had drawn a picture and placed it behind the teddy bear.
The picture was the teddy bear, who was happy and saying 'yay' and a note from d8 saying that this was a great wishing bear. The teddy bear had a 'bubble' that was him wishing, and in that bubble was drawn every one of d8's family, including My STBXW and me standing together, d8 and both SS's underneath us. All of us happy.
I was heartbroken for d8 as I looked at that picture, understanding that she probably wishes her family was still together. It is tough to take, but I also understand that it is probably natural, especially as she processes in her own way what is happening. I will do whatever it takes to help her through this, as I understand she is hurting as well. I'll probably bring up with my IC, and see what he thinks next steps should be.
I wished it could be that we were a happy family also, but that is not to be, and I'll be fine, as I am sure d8 will be as well.
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."