Part of me right now feels like telling W if you sleep with OM this weekend, it is over and I am filing January 4th. But I know the other part of me tells me I will get over it even if she does as I always seem to get over it after initially being angry about it.
That's why I'm saying not to spend time on it. I understand what Antlers is saying, I'm not advocating putting your head in the sand. If you want, you can quiz your daughters about her every move. But does it really matter if this is a friendship, EA, or PA? As in, will your actions change?
It's up to you man, but from the above it seems you've made your choice. There are way too many stories on here and at one of my counselor's site, http://www.affairrecovery.com, to give up hope. Just IMO.
I spent so much time and energy snooping and trying to figure out how far my W went, before realizing that I'll still be fighting regardless. And I know now that one of the guys was just a platonic friendship. What a waste.
And this I do know: no affair will make your W happy. So which Kevin will she find when she finally realizes that?
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
