A Choice

[sandi2]

Yes, I think I had just read his post and thought how ironic b/c I had talked to him about Dropping the Rope.....but guess he never did. Like so many others, it takes a D to get the LBH to the place they finally drop that rope.....and just like they had been told way back there what would happen......his W starts doing EXACTLY what I told him she would. So, now he's wondering what's with her with this new interest she suddenly has with his life. Makes me want to shake him!

Are you going to do the same thing Pat? I counting on you not doing that to us.

I have another person waiting on me to explain to her what dropping the rope means. I feel like nobody listens. Maybe it's just b/c it has all fallen on this sujbec today and I'm exhausted going through that old thread.

I have spent the entire evening going over an older thread where several people was working with this LBH. We gave him everything we had. The couple left to go to a Retro Weekend and he said he would tell all about what happened when he got back. Now he had been on this board for a year without any improvement in his M. So, they go to Retro and he comes back and says it was wonderful and that the M was good but he promised his W that he would stay off the DB board. I knew right then that in his trying to open up to her --he spilled the beans when she started probing him about where he was getting his infomation. So, she told him to ditch the board, and that's what he did. I've wondered if the M is doing okay. Frankly, I did not have a good feeling about him caving into her feelings like that,but it's not the first member that's done it and won't be the last. I see this board as a support group for some, and therapy for others. They sure don't need to be telling their S they are discussing the MR on the Internet b/c the S just doesn't understand what this is all about.

So, I promise I will get back to your tomorrow if at all possible. I need to turn in for the night.

Hope you have a good envening.

Sandi