Hi Smiley, I hope 2010 is a much better year for you and your kids. I also wish that your wife wakes up and stops hurting your little ones. It's a very disturbing feeling not to be able to "protect" your kids from the hurt their other parent is causing. xx K
When she moved out WAW left bags of clothes to donate to charity. Only she didn't inventory them for tax purposes (and we're filing jointly for 2009, so it matters from my POV). And WAW is out of the country on another one of her Overseas F*ckfests.
So guess who gets to go through his soon-to-be-ex-wife's clothes? Many of which still have her smell?
Ain't life frickin' grand? And on 12/31 I get to observe the anniversary of WAW's decision to dump me - though she didn't tell me (of course) until Valentine's Day. So I got that going for me. Which is nice.
It's getting progressively and ever-more-rapidly difficult to manage the process of stopping the residual love I have for her without replacing it with what would surely be a lush and ever-expanding hatred for her. Which would do Themselves no good at all. (But which would, I suspect, feel oh-so-good.)
You don't need to inventory them just drop them off. Your time and emotional energy is worth more than the small monetary gain.
Want to change the smell? You can do it or do you have a dog or cat?
Start putting yourself first mate.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
SP - I donate clothes all the time w/out an individual, physical inventory. There's only so much they can give you anyhow! Move on! You'll be much better off. No need for noseplugs then!
PS - I like Kett's input.
Last edited by mindfull; 12/29/0903:30 AM.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
It's getting progressively and ever-more-rapidly difficult to manage the process of stopping the residual love I have for her without replacing it with what would surely be a lush and ever-expanding hatred for her. Which would do Themselves no good at all. (But which would, I suspect, feel oh-so-good.)
I think hate, or rather seething anger, is part of the process you'll have to go through. Just don't ever let Themselves know about it.
I think the winter is about the worst time for dealing with this kind of crud. The days are short, dank and dreary; it's too cold to play outside; and the 49er's are not in the playoffs. How much more depressing can it get?
I read up on this @ the IRS website, and there appears to be a requirement for itemizing > $500. And this lot is definitely > $500. Better safe than sorry, at any rate.
Aside from the 150-odd pieces of kids' clothes from Gymboree and the bags of out-grown sports items (shinguards from each of the first 3 seasons of AYSO, for example), there are the high-ticket (even used) WAW items. From the Coach purses and belts to the pile of never-worn Ann Taylor, Saks, etc. (tags still on), a couple of never-worn Pendleton woolen items, a slew of designer once-worns, and the like, I can almost track the affair and divorce through clothes, as the sizes go down from 12 to 6.
I've discovered the "best" part isn't the smell, though -- it's coming across the things that I gave her.
Oh well. All for the cause of fiscal responsibility. Somehow, somewhere, this has to benefit Themselves one way or t'other.
@nutfarmer: The 49'ers not being in the playoffs isn't a problem for me. "There is much that I ambivalent about -- even instinctively hostile to -- in San Francisco." (Anthony Bourdain)
@kettricken: Can't get blotto with Themselves in the house.
why not give them to charity and forego the tax receipt, no one says you have to claim it as a charitable donation, you can just give them away.
Just an idea, less work, seriously it's her clothes, if she didn't care enough to do it, I don't know why you have to care about them, it really doesn't make sense.
You could also just throw them in a firepit and burn them, that might be fun too.
Seriously so many things to do, wasting your precious time itemizing clothing that she is giving away to charity seems like such a waste.
Drop off the box at her place if you can't burn them, give them away or throw them out.
Leave a note that says "Hey you forgot to itemize these, they weren't included in the tax return" and leave it at that.
I'm going to say since no one else is.... you lost your mojo bro, you had it, you were a shining example and now you just seem so beat up, you let her take shots at you continuously and you don't cover your body or face, you just take it, you look like rocky balboa after his first & second fight with apollo creed.
What happened to your mojo?
Get it back.
You were having so much more fun before when you had it. Life was much better for you before when you had it. You let her steal it away like she did so long ago and leave you as is and this ain't no fun.
Mojo.
Find it.
Incorporate mojo into SP again, you were a better person when you had it, your wife even responded to you when you had it.
