how to 180 when you've been too independent?

[avermont]

Help and advice, please! Maybe Puppy can weigh in?

Is this totally failing at detachment, or exposing the A?:
Find out from MIL ( who knows the whole story and is on my side) that X is taking OW to NYE party at uncle's on other side of family. They are not at all close; totally weird to go there for NYE.

Only reason is to introduce OW and see how the fam takes her.

I don't know if anyone on that side knows the story. It kills me to think X will spin a story of..mutual breakup, all OK...then I just happen to meet this fabulous woman!

If I tell "my side" to one of them (have FB friends) is that exposing the ? Or just beating my head and heart to pieces and looking bitter to boot?

Darn it, I have been part of that family for 23 years! Do I get to be heard at all?!

Swing the 2x4's!