kai MY xh also M the OW she is 28 he is going to be 43 It hurts a lot when you first find out seems so bizaar b/c so much of the reading suggest it wont happen I guess it does My XH M in August..5 months after our D was final all I can sat is the pain eases inially it is a great shock..then it passes whether the R can last, who knows but im sure it wont be a blissful union how could it when so many people were affected for th negative and the age difference alone will catch up focus on tking care of you let H go you will continue on your journey becoming free and whole you will heal I suspect they shutdown and that is how they can move on so easily the OW is like a drug but that part will fade and hopefully for them their is something of substance in the R or we know it cant survive R are difficly in the best of situations and these circumstances are so negative the odds are NOT with them hang in peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow