[quote=avermont]I feel like I am the only one here in this particular sitch. I know that can't be true; I'm thinking only of my own pain.

But I haven't found any other threads where the WAS just...completely...walked away. Said the words: I'm done. And seems to be just exactly that.

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Hi Avermont, I just read your thread (only this one not your others) & my sitch is a bit similar in that H told me he didnt' "feel anything" anymore one day & within 2 weeks he moved out. That was in March 09. After 11 yrs. of marriage, yes, my H basically did just that. In fact, I even have it in an email from him the words "I'm done with the marriage". Just in case they ever stopped being burned in my brain! smirk We don't have kids, just 2 dogs. And he pretty much walked away from everything.

We also have a rental property, but no tenants currently. We tried to get some this summer (what fun) but no bites. I think its because prospective tenants sensed the negative energy from our house & stayed away! smile

At first he moved in w his (male) friend. Now I believe he is living w OW however he has denied an A, & communication has gone from poor to pretty much non-existent. Except, as with you when it's time to pay the bills.

You are getting great advice here & I really can't add to it. I know it sounds conflicting but there is more than 1 way to skin a cat (sorry cat lovers) & different things work for different people. I think you are doing great & sounds like you're doing everything right. When this all happened I did everything wrong. About a mo. later I found the DR book, & then this site. That first month was hell. I have to hand it to you on telling your BF to move out at the beginning & taking the lead on formalizing things. I havent' been real good at that part of things.

I just wanted to say I think you're doing a great job & you have my support. I'll continue to read your thread & if I can offer good input I definitely will. Peace to you in the new year.