What can I do to save my marriage? Help

[Ready2Change]

I am paraphasing from Parenting with Love and Logic P30 - learning at affordable prices:

Today is the cheapest price we will pay for bad choices. Tomorrow the price will always be higher.

I am setting boundaries with my X-Wife. The cost is higher now than if I would have done so sooner after the bomb. I am glad that you are taking the advise. The price is the cheapest now.

So the "trick" is to start acting like you are divorced- NOW!

The spell you W had on you has been broken and she can no longer control you. You still respect her, but you respect yourself MORE!

Determine what is YOUR responsibility and what is HER responsibility. Do not rely on her for anything. Stop sharing money. Setup your own account if needed. DO IT NOW!

Make the master bedroom, YOURS! Paint it YOUR COLOR. Move the furniture to where YOU want it. New bed cover might look nice! Any art you like? Get it in there.....