I see what you mean about why she would probably call!It makese sense unfortunately. P, do you feel your muscles ripping through your shirt? You are seriously staying so strong at this NC business!!
LOL ... not really! I just have no desire to contact her at all. I know what it will do to me and I am shying away from it IYSWIM.
My W unfortunately forgets what I've been through. This 'game' she is playing with D, her emotions and me, she cannot win. I have been playing this game of 'using your D as a pawn', off and on, with D's mum for 7 years. I am WAAAY more advanced in the game than she is. I think she has unfortunately forgotten that.
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W is not leaving you alone. just stating facts; not being optimistic.swear.
It's guilt I think that is keeping the tie there with D. Nothing more. Then again maybe she just can't bear to finally drop the rope on D ... no idea.
Heart is catching up with head so all hope is going, slowly, but it's going. That is a good thing for me. I don't want the hope anymore.
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it is messy- We must state things in simple and direct terms with foggy WASs!!
I know. And I was relaying it through a third party so Chinese Whispers will be part of it now too!
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But your letter was really direct and strong! Short and to the point! She got that letter and you've barely wavered in NC; actions keeping true to your words in the letter.
It has been really hard at point and really easy in others. As I've said before though I think it will push W away rather than bring her back in, but it has been really good for me and I don't regret it.
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big deal--does not raise any concern to me on outside looking in.
It does for me unfortunately but there is nothing I can do about it so I'm trying hard (and not always succeeding) not to think about it.
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Same here...could really use a break at least. But NC will only offer you protection as long as THEY leave US alone.
I am my own worst enemy too though as I keep listening to people. See next post for an example of that!
@cutter - thanks. I don't feel better today but that is probably the hangover - Xmas parties and nights out will kill me! This coming from a guy who rarely drank alcohol at all.
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
It does for me unfortunately but there is nothing I can do about it so I'm trying hard (and not always succeeding) not to think about it.
