Welcome to the board. Come every day to post and read other people's stories. It will help you.

I will tell you what I have learned from my own experiences, other people's experiences, and from reading, etc. So, take it FWITW, but I hope it may help. Can't tell everything in one post b/c of so much I know...... grin Just kidding ya.

Well, first.....you don't move out of the house. Second....the 23 yr. old needs to move out. Your W may not like that, and you need her support on this b/c it will add to the ever growing M problems if she doesn't. I can promise you this....if he doesn't leave, he'll never get better. It is about the toughest love you will ever have to use, but do it for him...and for the sake of your M. I could talk a long time about that, but I think you already know what I'm saying, don't you?

She is going through some major changes. All this with the son has taken a toll on her in several ways. My first suggestion is for her to see a specialist that will test all of her hormone levels and if needed....get her on HRT. Don't know if she needs it, but the doctor will know. I can tell you this much....it will make a difference in her affection for you if her hormone level is what it should be. After all, that is what women are made of.....so you don't want her running low!

Does your W work outside the home?

I am concerned about her activity on the computer....FB, etc. The more I hear about FB and all the problems it has caused in M's....the more I dislike it. I would not be surpirsed if she has not made a connection with somebody from her past that is trying to rekindle old feelings. May not be from the past....may be some new man. I tell you this b/c if you read very many threads here on the board...you will discover that most of the WAW's are in in EA (emotional affair) and some are in a PA. Not all women who walk away from their M are in an A, but the majority are.

Have you read her emails and messages on FB to see who she is contacting the most? Does she seems secretive about things? Is she into TM on her phone? Does she leave the room to take calls? Start noticing if she is doing things like that that seem strange.

Have you read Michelle's article here on the home page about the WAW? If not, please do so. Also, if you have not ordered the DR book, you need to get that.

I will talk to you later. Hope you will stick with the board. You'll find good people here and they will support you more than anyone else.

Take care of yourself. That's important.

Sandi

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!